Victorious, Vivacious, Venus

Victorious, Vivacious, Venus

No Regrets, Are you Happy?

“I think anything that you do, any accomplishment that you make, you have to work for. And I've worked very hard in the last ten years of my life, definitely, and I can tell you that hard work pays off. It's not just a cliché.”   -Cameron Diaz

We always here the saying, "Life is always full of regrets, and what-ifs."  Many times, we hold back on our dreams and goals because we sacrifice for our family.  BUT, before I continue on, I do want to say, being a full time stay at home parent, is one tough job.  Many people choose to do this, and I honor and commend your hard work, dedication, and strength.  There is no easy task when it comes to taking care of kids, and they deserve more credit than they are given.  My post is in reference to people who hold back on their dreams because of obstacles, challenges, or hurdles that are put in front of them.  I hear from many of my clients who tell me they wish to go back to school and become a nurse, doctor, or owning their own business.  When I ask what they are doing in their lives now, they tell me, “Well, I don’t work, because I have kids”or“My spouse works and makes enough, so he/she doesn’t want me to work.  I just cook, clean, and make sure the kids are well taken care of.” 

Well, I don’t ever remember growing up and hoping one day I can grow up to be like Cinderella, before she met the prince.  I remember my parents telling me to work and study hard so, I wouldn’t have to depend on someone else.  Goals, careers, and ambitions may change, but that is ok!  Sacrificing for your children is noble and self-less.  Living a life full of regret, is not.

Ever since we were little, we felt like our entire life was a juggling act.  From going to school, taking care of pets, having a relationship, practicing and playing sports, and applying for colleges, our plates were always full.  So, as we grow older, why do some of us push the pause button on our personal lives?  The pause button may be due to hurdles we have that are blocking us from pursuing our dreams, or uncertainties that may come, if we were to move forward. 

See, when we were little, we thought the things on our plates were so difficult, that a break up meant we couldn’t live on.  We would cry for days, thinking a heartache is the worst feeling in the world.  Funny, that type of thinking doesn’t last long after knowing the feeling of delivering a baby without an epidural. From our perspectives now, we think it’s foolish, and not something worth pausing our dreams and goals for.  Now, fast forward to when you are older, say 80, and you look back at your adulthood years.  You see that your hurdles and uncertainties were of people telling you no.  You realize the ginormous issues that were holding you back really were not that big.  Many people in their later years say they regret not going for their dreams, or they wished they had listened to themselves.  So now, let’s rewind to the current time we are in.  Why aren’t you where you want to be? 

People in your life need to be supportive of your goals.  Life is too short for you to hold back and not be happy.  We raise our children to be independent, goal-oriented, determined, and ambitious.  We need to think the same way for ourselves.  Life will always be a juggling act.  We need to learn how to balance it all.  Success and satisfaction will follow.  Remember, the key question is…Am I happy?

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